Beauty is Gene Deep but give me those little imperfections

Q. Why do pretty people get away with murder? A. Preservation of the species. Huh? How could those two ideas possibly be connected? They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That’s partially true, but the symmetrical face with a particular set of characteristics...
The Unexpected Benefit of Writing Letters to My Kids Every Month

What I Should Have Said to Your Weight Loss Advice

I had just walked in the door when you sidled up next to me. “Can I show you something?” You showed me your iPad, face lit up with eager excitement. You watched me closely, looking for a happy or grateful reaction — something to reinforce your discovery. Instead, you...
The Unexpected Benefit of Writing Letters to My Kids Every Month

Korean Beauty Standards, My Mom, and Me

One evening when I was about 10 years old, I found my mom sitting cross-legged on the living room floor by a lamp. She was gazing at herself in a hand mirror, and an open rectangular box wrapped in red satin with Korean writing on the lid sat nearby. As I got closer,...
The Unexpected Benefit of Writing Letters to My Kids Every Month

Stop Holding Onto Someone Who Is Already Gone

My ex-husband and I got married with the intention of one day having children. That was actually a thing after our very first date. He really wanted kids; I was unsure. He told me that if I wasn’t at least open to the idea of having children one day that we wouldn’t...